A common housewife, a common life worth living.

When does it all slow down? October 21, 2015


Wow.  It seems like every time i get around to writing a new post, at least 3 weeks – 3 months has gone by.  With a f/t job, a class at school that takes lots of time at home, also; a hubs and child that believe in eating at least 2 meals a day plus snacks; a 5 year old that is now involved in sports; after-school activities; overtime at work; a house that needs to be cleaned….

That’s why i don’t get around to writing often these days.  Life just blows past.  But I AM making a CONSCIOUS effort to make time happen in a more meaningful way.  Yes, the laundry kinda piles up and the dishes sit in the dishwasher for an extra day, but when i stop and look at my day and realize I only spend 3-4 hours PER DAY with my child, I get a little more thoughtful.

I get a little aggravated, too.  Late-in-life, only child.  The one and only Beanster.  And i get to spend 3-4 hours a day with the one Bean I gave birth to.

I feel a soapbox coming on….

Some days I feel like i was born in the wrong decade.  Okay, so maybe the Andy Griffith Show isn’t 100% accurate, but it was definitely based in a time when there was more togetherness and families knew what each other looked like.  Yes, I wish i was that stay-at-home mom again.  I hope to be one day, but with the economy like it is, well, we’re still working towards that end.  (Expensive insurance and low wages don’t help a whole heck of a lot, either.)

I didn’t do such a great job at the whole “housewife” thing when Beanster was a baby.  I had grand ambitions, but I was that older mom that just didn’t have all the energy I needed.  Still don’t.  (It’s called anemia.)  I regret that I have to work now.  I am fed up with expensive insurance that you must have or you get penalized for it.  I’m fed up with high food prices that will probably never go down.  I’m sick of everything going up all the time and wages not keeping up.

But we make the best with what we have.  We have taken some hard hits with rent and health insurance in the past 6 months.  Big chunks of $ gone out of the monthly budget.  Our budget looked good about 3 months ago.  Not so much now.  Everything went into effect and we literally heard our money say “goodbye”.

In the meantime, I’ve been making a LOT of rice recipes.  The one thing i WILL do differently is not buy the cheapest bag o’ rice next time.  Seriously.  What you save in pennies on the rice gets doubled (literally) with all the time and extra electricity to get it cooked!  20 minutes?  Not hardly.  Can I get an “amen”?

We’ve started making a lot of our own household products.  We make our own personal products:  deodorant, face powder, etc.  I tried making dishwasher detergent the other day.  Well, that didn’t work.  First recipe I’ve tried that didn’t work.  I was pretty disappointed, but i don’t think it was going to be as cheap as it i thought it was going to be.  Oh well.

I was disappointed with my laundry detergent when i first made it because it didn’t take out a lot of the odors.  However, if you don’t have odors, it works wonders on stains!!!!!  I did the whole 5-gallon bucket recipe.  I knew I was going to use it, whether it worked or not.  Here’s how well it worked:  i found the old gift card that had been lingering in the bottom of my purse to a great restaurant.  We loaded up and went out.  We ordered.  Our waitress dumped a cup of barbecue sauce all over Hub’s khaki shorts.  All over.  I don’t mean a drop, i mean the whole cup right on his pants.  And we didn’t even get an apology!  I told him not to worry about the pants.

We came home and I sprayed them down with stain remover (which never gets out the hard stuff), and loaded it up in the washer with the homemade detergent.  Pulled it out to inspect it before it went and the dryer and not one drop, one hint, one iota was on the shorts!!!!  Woohoo!  I took that as a win, especially since the dishwasher recipe didn’t work out so well.

We are still working on ways to cut expenses and bring in extra income.  We look for free things to go do.  We watch a LOT of movies at home and make pan-popped popcorn.  We buy the $5 pizza down the road.

What’s aggravating is that we HAVE to do this, but the fun part is seeing how much money can be saved.  I’ve been at this for a few years now.  I’ve had good luck and bad luck.  Until we win the lottery, we’ll keep this up.  ;)  Tonight we took advantage of a car dealership having a grand opening.  We’ve actually been considering one of their vehicles, so we registered to try to win one.  Beanster had a great time in the bouncy house, we had hot dogs, went into the photo booth, and listened to some live music.  It was like a free date night and Beanster got to burn it all off.

If only i could have come home to a clean house….  *sigh*.  Maybe in another universe

Either way, it’s been a good day.  I feel like it was another win for the budget and maybe a new car will be in our future, too.

Okay, so I didn’t really get to my original point, but I think i made it in a round-about way.




Busy, busy, busy September 7, 2015

Filed under: Happenings — beansterblog @ 6:20 pm
Tags: , , , ,


I’m beginning to think that I don’t really like the peace and down time I say that I crave.  Maybe I do, maybe I don’t.  It’s difficult to tell some days.

Basically, I have decided to go back to school.  Again.  Again again, actually.

Beanster has started school and I guess I caught the bug.  Getting registered was a nightmare.  Buying books was incredibly expensive.  In fact, the book cost more than the class!  I’m not sure what I’ll do for next semester.  I imagine this will be a 1-class-at-a-time experience this time.

Anyhow, on the very first night of class we found out that we have 16 hours of observation to do (yes, i have a full-time job) and a power point presentation to do, not to mention term papers.  Well…that was news to us.  And my laptop is so old it doesn’t even connect to the internet anymore thanks to all the junk on it.

So, my birthday is coming up soon and Hubs knew what I was going through and how I am actually trying to make a career out of this and he came through with flying colors.  This man is amazing.  Some days he really does surprise me!

But Beanster is having a great time at school, too!  There are plenty of educators in our family, so I’m guessing I’m not the only person who loves school.  I keep hearing of all these kindergarteners who absolutely are so tired of school and we are only two (2) weeks in!!!!  Hard to believe.  Beanster loves it.  It may be partly how much I’ve built it up for him, partly because he sees me going back to school, and partly because he really does enjoy school.  He says gym is his favorite class.

We have also entered the world of extra-curricular activities.  We have signed him up for a team sport.  So far, this is turning out well.  They have their first game pretty soon and we’ll see how much they all catch on to it.  Little kids are so fun.  Neither of us are sports-loving people.  I do like off-road biking and Hubs was into skateboards when he was a teen.  Other than that, we’re not really “Team Sport” people.  Beanster is!  It’s crazy, but I don’t think it’s genetic.

I’m just thankful that he’s being so positive about school and sports.  Life would be far more difficult if I had to convince, coerce, or cajole him into any of it.

My day planner is filled up completely for the next two weeks.  I can’t believe what is involved in getting a kid into school and how much time participation takes.  For both of us.  Full schedules.  However, there will be plenty of learning and fun involved for both of us, so that is exciting.

I’m looking forward to this semester.  Beanster and I will both probably be heaving sighs of relief when Christmas break rolls around, though.

I hope you all had a great Labor Day weekend.

Peace and love, everyone.



Happy corners. September 6, 2015

Filed under: Ramblings — beansterblog @ 10:08 am


There’s something about the changing of the season that brings a new expectancy.  A new hope.  A rejuvenation.  Maybe it’s the fresh breeze that flows through stale windows.  

I’m not sure, but it always makes me happy.  I know a lot of people love fall for the cool temperatures, sweaters, football, and pumpkin spice everything …  We have most of that in our part of the country, but the cooler temps are usually not until November.  

I remember as a kid seeing all the fall borders in school, pictures of happy autumn leaves blowing down the road after the school bus goes by in early September, and heavy costumes for Halloween.  I also remember thinking “where does this happen?”

One Christmas I received a jogging suit.  Magenta and turquoise.  Yes.  I loved it.  It was made of velour or something and I only got to wear it once – on Christmas Day and I nearly had a heat stroke in it.  We ate Christmas dinner with the sliding glass doors open and the ceiling fans going.

Ah, Florida.  

You know, the holiday season is approaching and this world is having a rough time right now.  There are wars, rumors of wars, famine, horrible diseases, awful things done to women and children, men bring slaughtered, politics are in upheaval, nations are in more debt than they’ve ever seen.  Our own nation is becoming unrecognizable.  You can’t help but wonder where all this is going.  It’s heartbreaking. It’s scary.  I’ll be the first to admit that.

But for some of us, there is hope.  It’s not an escape pass, a get out of jail free card, or anything of the sort.

It’s Jesus.  You can disagree with me or vent about it, but it’s hope, peace, joy, true love.

When you see God (Jehovah) as the creator of the universe, you can look around and see the beauty, marvel at the earth itself, and gaze up into the depths of space and stare in awe.

There are natural disasters, sure, awful things that happen as the earth groans.

We can see the knowledge man has acquired over the millennia, the inventions and the discoveries, and the weapons and warfare it has created.  

But we can see amazing things like the shuttle launches and man landing on the moon, we can dive to depths in the ocean that we thought we might never see, and we have seen the health and state of humans improve (where it has been allowed).  

We have seen great struggle and mass extermination.  We have seen despots and tyrants.  And we have seen great leaders rise up and solve great crises over the centuries.  We have seen humanity come together to try and assuage the grief felt by those who are homeless, starving, refugees.

Sometimes the light seems hard to see.  It feels like the darkness is taking over and swallowing us whole.

It’s in those times when we can look to that Creator of the worlds, the One Who sent His Son to die for ALL of humanity.  The One Who loves us with an everlasting love.  The One Who made this earth for us to live in and live in community with others and in harmony with God.  That was the original plan.

It hasn’t worked out so well since then…

But we can look around and see it.  We can catch that glimpse of Divine handiwork and wonder at the immensity of it all.  And it should drive us to serve our fellow man and help them in their times of need.

When our focus gets on all the horrible things going on in the world, we don’t need to bury our heads in the sand.  We need to look back to the Source and to His plan.  

When the leaves change, the flowers bloom, the snow falls, or the temperature rises in summer, we can find that happy corner of the world and reflect on the the One who made it all.  

To those who don’t know Jesus, I pray you find him.  To those who do, let us do all we can to try and make this world a little happier, a little easier, and a little more loving.

Peace and love, everyone.



The latest projects. September 1, 2015

Filed under: Around the House — beansterblog @ 8:00 pm
Tags: , , , , , ,


Well, we’ve been super busy with garage sales, downsizing, budgeting, organizing, etc.  it has been a super busy summer.  Where was my vacation?

Just kidding.  We had one.

It was fast, but we were there.

Now, Beanster has turned into a big kid.  He’s in kindergarten!  Homework was mentioned at “meet the teacher” night and I panicked.  Our “found” dining table is also my desk.  Piles, er, stacks -neat stacks- of bills and stuff to be filed fill one end.  Beanster needed his own spot. 

So, of COURSE, I went on Pinterest.  Where else?  Being the sentimental type who can’t get rid of stuff, we still have Beanster’s crib!  It’s a 4-stage bed that we were going to keep and get the rails for a full size bed.

That didn’t happen.  He has a twin bed because we are in an apartment, for crying out loud.  

I found this idea a few months ago and thought it would be great to use his crib as a desk.  Now, I’m not drilling holes in it or anything, but we put the springs on and Hubs found a large, heavy (sturdy) piece of plywood and he cut it down to fit.

I had considered getting a $1 calendar and pasting the pictures on there, but I decided that if this desk is to be for homework, Transformers might not be as motivating as they would be distracting.

I found a 2002 atlas in the bookcase and decided that might just be the ticket.  

I went to Walmart and bought the 32 oz bottle of Mod Podge.  When I got back I started cutting out various states.  The map was a little bigger than I thought, so I had to use less pieces.

Eventually, after some trial and irreparable error, I got most of it covered like I wanted.  I put on another two coats and I may slap on another one.

I’m hoping that if I ever change my mind, I can just Mod Podge right over it.  

Anyhow, Beanster has his first homework ever tonight and he got to work on his brand new desk!

As you can see, it’s not finished, but it’s a pretty fair start.

Hope all is going well with you all this week.

Peace and love, everyone!



In the storm. August 30, 2015

Filed under: Happenings — beansterblog @ 10:08 am
Tags: , , , ,


Wow.  Have you seen that picture of the map of life?  There’s the straight line where you have your plan, then there’s the line that is indescribably complex that is the path of reality.

It’s amazing how accurate that really is.  You have your little plans and desires, but you’re not 100% behind them.  They fizzle.

Then suddenly, a little epiphany hits you, you pray about it, you begin to make a plan, then you put your toes in the water.  And all chaos breaks loose.  You get attacked from all sides:  finances, friends, emotionally, the list goes on….

You really have to dig in and stick to your guns and find yourself again.  You have to hold fast to your resolve.

And you have to re-evaluate some things.  Things you thought were pretty sure on your planned path.  “I’ll do this for X amount of time, then do this at Y time.”

Yeah.  That’s where I find myself right now.  I’ve spent too much time living in fear of my decision and over-thinking every last word and deed and motive.

I’m tired of over-thinking.  I’m tired of being afraid.  I’m tired of wondering minute to minute what is going to happen next.

I’ve never been preachy on my blog and my intent is to only clarify where I’m coming from.  Just FYI.

The Lord says that His plans for us are to give us a hope and future, not to destroy us.  He says many times not to fear.  He tells us that he watches over the sparrows and that even the foxes have holes to live in.  He tells us to trust Him with our plans and to dedicate them to him.  He tells us to dedicate a small portion of our finances to Him and He will watch over our money (it’s His, anyhow).

In these times when you have done all to stand, continue to stand! Commit your plans to God.  Pray to the Father who loves you with an everlasting love and know that His perfect love will drive out fear!

And move forward.  Whether that means to wait and pray (move forward in your prayer) or whether it means to actually take those steps and move forward, be bold.  Let go of fear and do what it is He’s called you to.

Now I know that my car may fall apart tomorrow.  My husband could lose his job.  One of us could be injured and become ill.  The economy could collapse.  Can I help prevent any of that?  Not likely.  What are the odds?  I don’t know. I can’t see over that hill or around that curve.

What I can do is try to prepare for that rainy day, pray to God to preserve our lives, our vehicles, our jobs (or provide new ones as He sees fit).  

Commit your ways to the Lord and honor Him in all your ways.  

Easier said than done, I know.  Anxiety is my companion and I struggle minute by minute to overcome it.  Yes, I struggle.  But in that anxiety I can do what I can to ease it – take care of myself, change the oil in the car, and, above all, give it all to the Lord and know that He is in control.

He is in control.

Peace and love, everyone.



Time flies when you’re having fun! No joke. June 20, 2015


WOW!  What an incredibly fast week this has been!  2:30 a.m. was pretty early on Monday and I was 99% sure we weren’t going to go on vacation, but 4:00 a.m. rolled around and off we went anyhow, loaded down with enough clothes for a week and a half.

Out of the blue a couple of months ago, a co-worker told me she was going to my old stomping grounds for a week’s vacation and did I know exactly where this motel was?  Sure!  Right there, can’t miss it.  A few days later, she asked me if I wanted to go with her and her family!  For real?!?!?!  Naturally, I said “Heck, yeah! And thank you a million times over!”

So Monday morning, we all loaded up and came on over to Florida.  Left the Tropical Storm Bill behind, and all the cares of the world, for just a few days. 

We met with family, who invited us to dinner the very first night for some amazing local pizza from Georgio’s.  So good!  


The next day we hit the beach.

Yeah.  Remember that tropical storm I referenced?  Well, for those who don’t live on the coast….  Rough seas travel a long way!  We had the double red flag for a couple of days.  Heard on the news that there were 84 rescues the weekend before we got here.  Saw life flight a couple of times while we were out there that first day.

I cannot stress the importance of listening to the warnings and obeying the lifeguards.  Rip currents are so dangerous and if you don’t know how to survive one, you can put more than your own life at risk.

We heard those whistles blowing all day.

Let me also share a sunscreen rule.  I brought two kinds.  Spray on and rub on.  I brought spray on due to pride.  I didn’t want to have to ask someone to help me out.  Well, I fried.  First full day on the beach.  The saga will continue later…

Wednesday brought us the Blue Angels air show practice.  They are amazing, as always!  I’ve been watching their videos out of homesickness, but nothing compares to the real deal.   Thank you, YouTube, for holding me over for a year!

After that we went to the Naval Air Station Museum (much less hot) and toured around.  Beanster burned off some adrenaline on the playground.


We got to see friends at the beach.


We had some of the most amazing coffee at BAGELHEADS!


We watched amazing sunrises.


We saw amazing sunsets!


And dolphins!


The beach was beautiful!


And ER was loads of fun!


So, about that sunscreen debacle…  Ahem. I seem to have missed my feet. Just a tad.  Spent the morning of the last full day there.  I have relatives in the medical field and when I texted a pic of this vein in my leg that looked, um, well… BAD… They recommended I go get it checked out.  3 hours later I did pick up great lunch.  The burgers at the hospital cafeteria are so tasty!  I still have swollen feet, the vein looks normal again, and I was satisfied with the burgers.  🍔

Three days later, I’m still red and swollen.  Nothing serious happened, even though some of my skin still looks questionable.  I did use some fantastic after-sun lotion.  Seemed to help a LOT!

If there is one thing I’m sad we didn’t get to go do, it’s that we didn’t see the Pensacola Museum of Art!  Two absolutely incredible exhibits are going on right now.


But, all in all, it was a fantastic trip and we had a great time.  Got to relive some good memories and make some new ones.  I’m going to be glad to be back in my own bed, but I’m going to miss waking up to this:

Have a great weekend.  Peace and love, everyone.



Avocado 2.0 news! May 25, 2015

Filed under: Gardening for Sanity — beansterblog @ 11:30 am
Tags: , , , , , , ,


 We’ve had more rain than normal (an understatement), but we haven’t had as much as our neighbors to the west. That’s a blessing.  There has been such torrential rain and flooding in our beautiful state.  Our hearts and prayers go out to those in need.  Fortunately, neighbors help neighbors around here.

All this rain that we’ve had (I don’t have a rain gauge, but it’s well over a foot) has done wonders for the patio plants.  

The tomatoes are really starting to pop out and there are more blooms everyday!

The zucchini is going crazy.

The lemon trees are coming up (5 in all).

And the long-awaited news on the avocado is….  It cracked!  From what I read, this is good news.

The bad news is that my olive was pummeled in all the storms.  It had tons of little blooms but they are all gone now.  😥

I do have some summer plants that I am waiting to see how they do.  The zinnias are trying to do their thing and the hibiscus is putting out new leaves.  

It’s not much, but since I’ve never been able to grow tomatoes or zucchini, I’m pretty excited!

The other thing that has wimped out on me is my pepper plant.  It started out really well, but i guess it doesn’t like the rain that much.  We did get one pepper off of it and we used it on a pizza.

And Beanster’s new hobby seems to be digging up earthworms, earthworms, and more earthworms.  We are constantly putting them in our plants.

   That’s the good news on the Homefront.  Here’s to praying we don’t flood this week, either.

Peace and love everyone.  Have a great week!




Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 45 other followers